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Why Anyone Would Want to Control You<\/a><\/p>\n

The need to control others may not make a lot of sense to you. If you\u2019re a live-and-let-live person, you\u2019d never want to control someone else. Even if you\u2019re a perfectionist, you stay on your own case all day, not necessarily someone else\u2019s.<\/p>\n

But controllers are out there. They want to micromanage what you say, how you act, even what you think quietly in your own mind. It could be your boss, your spouse, or even your parent.\u00a0You can\u2019t be yourself around them. They insist on being your top priority and want undue influence over your life. They might push your buttons to get an emotional reaction out of you because they want to exploit it as weakness. They have no respect for you or your boundaries.<\/p>\n

There are plenty of theories why someone would want to control you. One is that people who can\u2019t control themselves turn to controlling others. This happens on an emotional level. A person full of insecurities has to exact a positive sense of self from other people because their self esteem is too low to do it for themselves.<\/p>\n

Maybe people control because they are afraid of being abandoned. They don\u2019t feel secure in their relationships and are often testing to see if they\u2019re about to be betrayed. The paradox is that their behavior creates exactly what they fear the most.<\/p>\n

Perhaps controlling people are\u00a0narcissists<\/a> looking to control their environment by any means necessary. This would mean other people are pawns. They\u2019re useful tools in the narcissist\u2019s world to be used as he or she pleases. It\u2019s nothing personal \u2014 you\u2019re just a good pawn. The problem with this perspective is that controlling bullies often make us wonder, \u201cWhy me?\u201d If it\u2019s really nothing personal, \u201cWhy do I feel like a target?\u201d<\/p>\n

The simplest reason is that you\u2019re a good, admirable person. There\u2019s nothing wrong with you. You don\u2019t have a target on your back, and you don\u2019t deserve to be disrespected. It may sound like a radical concept, but what the controller wants is what you\u2019ve got:<\/p>\n