American society doesn’t allow enforcement, or even encouragement of any standards anymore. Parents who try to modify the behavior of a troubled child are at risk of government intervention up to including criminal charges.
The same parents dare not try to get involved with the school education indoctrination program and anyone with any sort of unusual urges is encouraged to “celebrate” them, while everyone else is bullied into accepting it and often forced into celebrating with them.
Any individual shortcoming is somebody else’s fault.
Any punishment is racist or misogynist or – insert here – shaming.
“For they sow the wind, and they shall reap the whirlwind.” was a warning not a game plan